Weight Loss: Men V Women
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It's not fair!!

I hear this often from both clients and friends alike. They start a new diet and it's their partners who lose weight, whilst theirs doesn't shift.


If you are a woman and have ever tried to lose weight, you may have observed this phenomenon yourself – and you are not imagining it.


According to a House of Commons Briefing Paper from January 2021, almost two thirds of adult women in the UK are overweight or obese. Although the obesity epidemic affects both sexes, men and women gain, carry and lose weight very differently.


Thanks to differences in body composition, women are at a disadvantage right out of the gate because they naturally carry more fat than men. Men have more muscle mass, and muscle is metabolically “expensive” to keep. That means it uses up energy – and that’s calories to you and me - even when at rest while fat does not. Muscles burn considerably more calories than fat, making the male metabolism 3-


10% faster than the female one. No surprise then that in studies, men are consistently found to do better on the exact same diet a woman might follow. Moreover, nature has distributed body fat in different ways. In women, it mainly sits on the hips and bum, where it serves as a vital store, for example for pregnancy. In

men, fat tends to accumulate around the belly. During menopause, women lose even more muscle and some bone mass, which increases their body fat percentage.


On top of that, a redistribution takes place. The padding on hips and bum reduces, while belly fat increases. The female figure changes from “pear” to “apple” because male hormones such as testosterone, which are present in the female body also, become more dominant post-menopause.


If you are overweight, you are better off carrying your weight around the thighs and bum rather than the belly. Abdominal fat is a lot more metabolically active and produces not only hormones – which, among other things, further affect weight, weight distribution and hunger – but also inflammatory compounds. This visceral belly fat is unhealthier as it promotes inflammation, increasing the risk for heart attack and stroke, but we know from studies that it is lost more quickly than fat from the hips.


This puts overweight men at risk sooner than overweight women. Yet ironically, while doctors tend to advise overweight women to lose weight as soon as their BMI passes the ‘healthy’ 25 mark, they rarely ask men to lose weight until their blood pressure and cholesterol readings are already off the scale. This is despite the fact that 68% of British men are overweight or obese as opposed to 60% of women.


There’s clearly bias at work here. Our society’s pressure on women to look good means that their excess weight registers much sooner than that of men. Friends and family, too, are less likely to comment on a man’s weight than on that of a woman.


If that wasn’t enough, girls and women often dislike their figure. They wish for a slimmer waistline before they are even overweight. Most women have been on their first diet before an objective need because they perceived themselves as “too fat”. For many, this first diet – often at a very young age – sets them on a path to yo-yo dieting.


Low-calorie crash diets can lead to rapid weight loss at first, but the body reacts to this “famine” by downregulating energy expenditure. As a result, the rapid weight loss soon slows down and may even grind to a halt, even though the dieter eats less and less.


The minimum number of calories we need at rest is called “basal metabolic rate” (BMR). It is already higher for men due to their greater muscle mass. By following crash diet after crash diet, many women gradually decrease their BMR further and further, not losing or even gaining weight while eating fewer and fewer calories. If a man goes on a diet at all, it is often much later in life. Their BMR is intact, and they have that extra muscle, making it relatively easy for them to lose weight.


For men, exercise is central to weight loss. Men often succeed by motivating themselves with challenges, such as a marathon, a triathlon or the three peaks. Also, they don’t mind lifting weights at the gym.


Women, on the other hand, tend to worry about accumulating too much bulk, going for endurance exercise instead. While that’s great for stamina, heart health and mood, it doesn’t do much for weight loss. Building muscle really is key here, and if you want to lose weight and increase your BMR, resistance exercise is crucial.

And there’s more injustice... According to a 2009 study, the “hunger hormone” ghrelin spikes after a workout in women, while leptin, which tells the brain that you’re full, plummets.


Not so in men. So post-workout, women tend to eat more, which puts them at risk of gaining weight – the exact opposite of what most women are trying to achieve! Men don’t experience this same hormonal fluctuation. Researchers are not sure why that is. They can only speculate, and one theory is that it’s the female body’s way to avoid energy deficits to preserve fertility and perpetuate the species. In the female

body, a lack of calories suppresses ovulation and hormones that make reproduction possible.


But physiology is not all. There are also mental elements that vary between men and women. Of course, there are some generalisations here, and there are always exceptions to the rule, but these are the findings of research papers looking into eating behaviours.


Men are more likely to overeat than women. They are less likely to cook, whether that’s due to time constraints or a lack of skill or interest. Unless home-cooked meals are provided for them, many men reach for junk foods. They are not just convenient but also highly palatable and easy to overeat – in fact, they are designed for us to over-consume them!


Women who eat too much tend to go for those foods as well, but for different reasons. In stressful situations, they reach for food that will activate the reward centre in the brain particularly well and fast. That means foods that contain a lot of fat and sugar. In the short term, such foods provide satisfaction, but in the long run, they increase the risk of developing diabetes, heart disease and dementia. It’s a kind of self-

medication of the brain in an attempt to briefly dampen the constant firing of stress hormones.


Again, hormonal fluctuations play a significant role. You might beat yourself up about lacking willpower but body chemistry is near impossible to beat. It always wins! Successful weight loss programmes for women, therefore, address the problem both from a physiological as well as a psychological point of view. On the one hand, it’s about providing the right nutrients to enable hormone balance. On the other, it’s about reducing stressors in everyday life and the negative emotions triggered by stress, which lead to eating binges.


In my programmes, self-care, stress relief and relaxation are an important pillar. Eating is supposed to be fun. A simple plan is needed, not one that would make life even more complicated and stressful. My plans are created with that in mind. They are flexible, the recipes are quick and easy to make and popular with everyone in the family.


For a man who wants to lose weight, information and a pack of quick and easy recipes is often enough.

For women, it is not that simple. Often, they already know what a healthy diet should look like and don’t mind cooking. However, they need more support to combat emotional eating and manage stress. They enjoy the exchange with a group of like-minded people and benefit from coaching – whether that’s in a group or as an individual – even more than men. Although some men also require extra support, one study found that they consider weight loss groups ‘feminised’ and prefer to go it alone.


So, if you have had the suspicion that men are having an easier time of weight loss than women, you are absolutely right. By knowing this, you can tailor your weight loss journey according to your needs without being fazed by the results of the men around you.


My programmes are designed with women in mind. I don’t just provide quick and yummy recipes, but also the coaching support women need to change their relationship with food for good.

The Oxford Clinic for Nutrition

24 Barley Close, WallingfordUnited Kingdom

by Megan Oliver 4 September 2026
Have you noticed that your cravings seem to have changed during your 40's? Perhaps you find yourself reaching for chocolate in the afternoon, craving something sweet after dinner, or feeling as though you could eat carbohydrates all day. You may also be experiencing energy dips, feeling hungry again shortly after eating, or finding it harder to stop once you start eating something sweet. If this sounds familiar, you're not alone. Perimenopause can be a time when appetite, energy levels and food cravings change. Hormonal fluctuations are one part of the picture, but sleep, stress, changes in muscle mass, activity levels and blood sugar regulation can all play a role too. Understanding what's happening can help you move away from the idea that your cravings are simply a lack of willpower. What is blood sugar? Blood sugar, or blood glucose, is the amount of glucose circulating in your bloodstream. Glucose is an important source of energy for your body. Your brain, muscles and other tissues all need a steady supply. When you eat carbohydrate-containing foods, your digestive system breaks some of those carbohydrates down into glucose. This glucose is absorbed into your bloodstream, causing your blood glucose level to rise. Your body then needs to move that glucose from the bloodstream into your cells. This is where insulin comes in. What is insulin? Insulin is a hormone produced by your pancreas. One of its main roles is to help glucose move from your bloodstream into your cells, where it can be used for energy or stored for later. Think of insulin as helping to open the door that allows glucose to move from your blood into your cells. After you eat, particularly when you eat carbohydrate-containing foods, insulin is released to help your body manage the resulting rise in blood glucose. This is a normal and necessary process. The problem arises when the body becomes less responsive to insulin. What is insulin resistance? Insulin resistance means that your cells don't respond to insulin as effectively as they should. Your pancreas can compensate for this by producing more insulin to try to keep blood glucose within a healthy range. Insulin resistance is influenced by many factors, including genetics, body composition, physical activity, diet, sleep and other aspects of metabolic health. It can also become more common with age. Importantly, insulin resistance doesn't mean that you have diabetes. However, it can increase the risk of developing type 2 diabetes and other metabolic problems, so it's something worth taking seriously. What does this have to do with sugar cravings? This is where things become interesting. Blood sugar naturally rises and falls throughout the day. However, large fluctuations can sometimes leave you feeling hungry, tired or craving quick sources of energy. For example, you might have a breakfast that is mainly carbohydrate with relatively little protein or fibre. You feel energised initially, but a couple of hours later you become hungry, tired or distracted by thoughts of food. You reach for something sweet. You get a quick boost of energy. Then the cycle begins again. Of course, this isn't the only reason people experience cravings. Cravings are influenced by many factors , including habits, emotions, stress, sleep, hunger and the palatability of certain foods. But supporting more stable blood glucose can be one useful part of the bigger picture. Why can cravings change during perimenopause? Perimenopause is a time of significant hormonal change. Oestrogen and progesterone fluctuate, sometimes dramatically, before eventually declining. Oestrogen has effects throughout the body, including on energy metabolism and insulin sensitivity. As hormone levels change during the menopausal transition, some women may experience changes in how their bodies regulate blood glucose. However, hormones aren't working in isolation. Several other changes often happen at the same time. 1. You may be sleeping less well Sleep problems are extremely common during perimenopause. Hot flushes, night sweats, anxiety, changes in mood and hormonal fluctuations can all interfere with sleep. Poor sleep can affect appetite regulation and insulin sensitivity, and being tired can make highly palatable foods much harder to resist. When you're exhausted, reaching for a quick source of energy is a very understandable response. 2. Stress may be higher Midlife can be a particularly demanding period. You may be balancing work, children, caring responsibilities, relationships and the physical and emotional changes of perimenopause. Stress triggers the release of hormones such as cortisol and adrenaline. These hormones help make energy available when your body perceives a challenge. Short-term stress is a normal part of life. However, ongoing stress combined with insufficient recovery can affect sleep, appetite, food choices and blood glucose regulation. 3. Muscle mass may be changing Muscle is an important site for glucose disposal. As we age, muscle mass can gradually decline if we don't actively work to maintain it. This can affect metabolic health and is another reason why resistance exercise becomes particularly valuable during midlife. 4. Your eating patterns may have changed Busy lifestyles can make it easy to skip meals, eat on the go or rely on convenience foods. You might unintentionally go several hours without eating, become extremely hungry and then find yourself craving foods that provide quick energy. This isn't a failure of willpower. It is often your body responding to being very hungry. Does eating sugar cause insulin resistance? It's tempting to look for one food or ingredient to blame, but the reality is more complicated. Eating sugar does cause blood glucose and insulin levels to rise, but that doesn't mean that eating sugar automatically causes insulin resistance. Insulin resistance is influenced by a combination of factors, including genetics, physical activity, body composition, overall dietary pattern, sleep and other aspects of metabolic health. A diet consistently high in energy-dense, highly processed foods can make it easier to consume more energy than your body needs, and excess body fat – particularly visceral fat around the organs – is associated with insulin resistance. This is why focusing on your overall dietary pattern is much more useful than labelling one food as "bad". How can you support more stable blood sugar? You don't need to completely remove carbohydrates or live on salads. Instead, think about how you combine foods. Start with protein Try to include a source of protein at each main meal. For example: Eggs Greek yoghurt Fish Chicken Lean meat Tofu or tempeh Beans and lentils Cottage cheese Protein can help you feel fuller and is important for maintaining muscle. Add fibre Fibre slows digestion and can help meals feel more filling. Good sources include: Vegetables Fruit Beans and lentils Oats Wholegrains Nuts and seeds Increasing fibre gradually is usually best, particularly if you're not currently eating much fibre. Don't be afraid of carbohydrates Carbohydrates are not inherently unhealthy. Choose mostly minimally processed, fibre-rich sources such as oats, potatoes, sweet potatoes, beans, lentils, wholegrains, fruit and vegetables. Combining carbohydrates with protein, fibre and healthy fats can make a meal more satisfying and can help moderate the rise in blood glucose compared with eating carbohydrate on its own. Don't skip meals if it makes you ravenous later If you regularly reach the afternoon feeling shaky, exhausted and desperate for something sweet, consider whether you're simply not eating enough earlier in the day. A balanced lunch containing protein, fibre-rich carbohydrate, vegetables and healthy fats may help you avoid the "3pm crash". Move after meals Physical activity helps your muscles take up glucose. You don't necessarily need an intense workout. A short walk after a meal can be a simple way to incorporate more movement into your day. Prioritise resistance training Resistance exercise helps maintain and build muscle, which is particularly valuable during midlife. It can also support insulin sensitivity and overall metabolic health. If you're new to resistance training, start gradually and seek appropriate professional guidance if needed. Don't underestimate sleep If you're constantly exhausted, it's much harder to make balanced food choices and manage cravings. Prioritising sleep and addressing the causes of poor sleep can therefore be an important part of supporting healthy appetite and blood sugar regulation. What should you eat when you have a sugar craving? First, don't panic. Having a craving for chocolate or something sweet doesn't mean you've done anything wrong. Instead, ask yourself: Am I actually hungry? If you are, have something that combines protein, fibre and carbohydrate. For example: Greek yoghurt with berries and nuts Apple with peanut butter Oatcakes with cottage cheese A piece of fruit with a handful of nuts Greek yoghurt with a small amount of dark chocolate And if you simply fancy some chocolate, you can have some chocolate. Healthy eating doesn't require perfection. The goal is to develop a way of eating that supports your health while still allowing enjoyment and flexibility. What if I crave sugar constantly? Persistent cravings can be frustrating, particularly if you feel that you're constantly thinking about food. Rather than trying to suppress the cravings through willpower alone, look at the bigger picture. Ask yourself: Am I eating enough? Am I getting enough protein? Am I eating enough fibre? Am I skipping meals? How well am I sleeping? How much stress am I under? Am I exercising regularly? Am I relying heavily on highly processed foods? Have my cravings changed alongside other perimenopause symptoms? These questions can often provide much more useful information than simply asking, " How can I stop eating sugar?" When should you speak to your GP? If you're experiencing persistent symptoms such as excessive thirst, frequent urination, unexplained weight loss, significant fatigue or other concerning changes, speak to your GP. If you're concerned about blood sugar or insulin resistance, your GP can assess your symptoms and determine whether blood tests or further investigation are appropriate. Nutrition can support metabolic health, but it shouldn't replace medical assessment where this is needed. The bottom line Sugar cravings during perimenopause are not necessarily a sign that you've lost your willpower. Hormonal changes can occur alongside changes in sleep, stress, muscle mass, appetite and blood sugar regulation – all of which can influence how hungry you feel and what foods you crave. Rather than completely eliminating carbohydrates or following a highly restrictive diet, focus on the basics: Eat enough protein. Choose plenty of fibre-rich foods. Combine carbohydrates with protein and healthy fats. Move your body regularly. Build and maintain muscle. Prioritise sleep. Look after your stress levels. And most importantly, look at the whole picture rather than blaming yourself for having cravings. Want help understanding your cravings? If you're experiencing increased sugar cravings, changes in appetite, weight gain or energy dips during perimenopause, personalised nutrition can help you look at the underlying factors and develop a practical approach that's right for you. https://www.oxfordclinicfornutrition.co.uk/contact Published 4th September 2026 About the author Megan Oliver – Nutritionist Megan is a UK-based nutritionist specialising in female health, with a particular interest in supporting women through perimenopause, menopause and midlife. She holds a BSc (Hons) in Nutritional Science and a Diploma in Personalised Nutrition, and is a member of the British Association for Nutrition and Lifestyle Medicine (BANT) and the Complementary & Natural Healthcare Council (CNHC). Her approach focuses on understanding the individual rather than following a one-size-fits-all diet, with nutrition and lifestyle strategies tailored to each woman's needs, goals and circumstances. Find out more about Megan’s approach here This article is for educational purposes and is not intended to replace individual medical advice or diagnosis. If you have persistent, new or concerning symptoms, please speak with your GP or another appropriately qualified healthcare professional.
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