Medical Gaslighting: Why Women’s Pain and Symptoms Are Often Dismissed - And What Needs to Change

Medical Gaslighting: Why Women’s Pain and Symptoms Are Often Dismissed - And What Needs to Change

Across the UK and beyond, many women report feeling ignored, dismissed or not believed by medical professionals when they seek help for symptoms - from pelvic pain and heavy periods to chronic conditions like endometriosis.


This experience isn’t just anecdotal; research shows systemic patterns that reflect gender bias in healthcare, with serious consequences for diagnosis, treatment and overall health outcomes.


What is medical gaslighting?

“Medical gaslighting” is a term used to describe experiences where patients feel their symptoms are minimised, dismissed as psychological, or normalised rather than investigated seriously. For many women this takes the form of being told their pain is “normal” for their age or sex, or that their symptoms are “in their head.”


A recent UK survey found that:

  • 50% of women felt dismissed or ignored because of their sex in the NHS.
  • 64% reported being told their pain or symptoms were “normal” or “in their head.”
  • 68% believed women’s health concerns are not taken seriously.


These experiences can erode trust, delay diagnoses and leave people suffering unnecessarily.


Women’s pain is often underestimated or undertreated

Numerous studies show that women’s pain is taken less seriously than men’s, even when reporting the same symptoms:


🧠 Pain assessment and treatment disparities

  • Research indicates that women are less likely to receive pain relief prescriptions than men, even when presenting with similar levels of pain. Women’s pain scores are recorded less often and they may spend longer waiting in emergency departments without adequate analgesia.
  • In surveys analysing experiences of pain in the UK, less than half (47%) of women received a diagnosis for pain within 11 months, compared to 66% of men.
  • A substantial proportion of women feel their pain isn’t taken seriously because of their gender, and many report being uncomfortable discussing their symptoms with healthcare professionals for fear of being judged as “moaning.”


This “gender pain gap” reflects not just individual clinician attitudes, but systemic bias in how women’s pain is understood, assessed and acted on.



Women have historically been under‑represented in research

Another key driver of bias in diagnosis and treatment is that women have not always been included equitably in medical research:

  • Analysis of UK clinical trials found far more male‑only studies than female‑only ones — and very few studies specifically include pregnant or breastfeeding women.
  • Historically, clinical medicine often used male biology as the “default.” Effective interventions and diagnostic criteria were developed based on male‑dominant samples, with female‑specific needs overlooked or considered exceptions rather than norms.


This means that many standard treatments, diagnostic tools and clinical guidelines may not work as well for women, or may not adequately address sex‑specific differences in disease expression and response to treatment.


Diagnosis delays and misdiagnoses

Gender bias in healthcare doesn’t just affect treatment - it also affects how quickly conditions are recognised and diagnosed:


  • Women are more likely than men to experience longer waits for diagnoses even for the same symptoms or pain types.
  • Many conditions that disproportionately affect women, such as endometriosis, fibroids or auto‑immune disorders, can take years or even a decade to be accurately diagnosed due to dismissal of early symptoms.
  • Studies suggest women are more likely to be misdiagnosed or given mental health labels rather than investigations for biological causes when presenting with the same symptoms as men.


These delays can worsen health outcomes, reduce quality of life, and lead to unnecessary suffering.


Why this matters - beyond statistics

When women repeatedly hear messages like “your pain is normal” or “you’re just emotional,” it can lead to:

  • Reluctance to seek help in the future
  • Delay in crucial diagnoses or referrals
  • Mismanagement of chronic conditions
  • Trust breakdown between patients and healthcare professionals


Addressing these experiences isn’t just about better communication - it’s about better clinical outcomes and safer, fairer healthcare.


What needs to change

To ensure women’s health concerns are taken seriously and addressed effectively, we need to see change at multiple levels:


  • 🩺 Training and bias awareness
    Healthcare professionals need
    comprehensive education on gender bias, including how to assess and interpret pain and symptoms without assumptions based on gender.
  • 📊 Improved research representation
    Medical research must continue to broaden representation, ensuring women — including pregnant and breastfeeding women — are included in trials, and data is analysed by sex to understand differences in disease patterns and responses to treatment.
  • 📈 Monitoring outcomes
    Healthcare systems should collect and monitor data on diagnosis times, treatment quality and patient experiences by gender to identify disparities and track progress.
  • 🗣️ Supporting patient voices
    Women should feel empowered to
    advocate for their health, ask questions, and insist on appropriate investigations — and healthcare professionals should be ready to listen and act.

 

Final thought

If you’ve ever felt dismissed, ignored, or not believed by a doctor or nurse when reporting symptoms, you are not alone - and your experience reflects broader systemic issues, not weakness or exaggeration.


Women’s health deserves equal attention, research, and respect so that every person can receive the diagnosis and care they need - without bias or dismissal.

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by Megan Oliver • 4 September 2026
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Your brain, muscles and other tissues all need a steady supply. When you eat carbohydrate-containing foods, your digestive system breaks some of those carbohydrates down into glucose. This glucose is absorbed into your bloodstream, causing your blood glucose level to rise. Your body then needs to move that glucose from the bloodstream into your cells. This is where insulin comes in. What is insulin? Insulin is a hormone produced by your pancreas. One of its main roles is to help glucose move from your bloodstream into your cells, where it can be used for energy or stored for later. Think of insulin as helping to open the door that allows glucose to move from your blood into your cells. After you eat, particularly when you eat carbohydrate-containing foods, insulin is released to help your body manage the resulting rise in blood glucose. This is a normal and necessary process. The problem arises when the body becomes less responsive to insulin. What is insulin resistance? 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You feel energised initially, but a couple of hours later you become hungry, tired or distracted by thoughts of food. You reach for something sweet. You get a quick boost of energy. Then the cycle begins again. Of course, this isn't the only reason people experience cravings. Cravings are influenced by many factors , including habits, emotions, stress, sleep, hunger and the palatability of certain foods. But supporting more stable blood glucose can be one useful part of the bigger picture. Why can cravings change during perimenopause? Perimenopause is a time of significant hormonal change. Oestrogen and progesterone fluctuate, sometimes dramatically, before eventually declining. Oestrogen has effects throughout the body, including on energy metabolism and insulin sensitivity. As hormone levels change during the menopausal transition, some women may experience changes in how their bodies regulate blood glucose. However, hormones aren't working in isolation. Several other changes often happen at the same time. 1. You may be sleeping less well Sleep problems are extremely common during perimenopause. Hot flushes, night sweats, anxiety, changes in mood and hormonal fluctuations can all interfere with sleep. Poor sleep can affect appetite regulation and insulin sensitivity, and being tired can make highly palatable foods much harder to resist. When you're exhausted, reaching for a quick source of energy is a very understandable response. 2. Stress may be higher Midlife can be a particularly demanding period. You may be balancing work, children, caring responsibilities, relationships and the physical and emotional changes of perimenopause. Stress triggers the release of hormones such as cortisol and adrenaline. These hormones help make energy available when your body perceives a challenge. Short-term stress is a normal part of life. 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Eating sugar does cause blood glucose and insulin levels to rise, but that doesn't mean that eating sugar automatically causes insulin resistance. Insulin resistance is influenced by a combination of factors, including genetics, physical activity, body composition, overall dietary pattern, sleep and other aspects of metabolic health. A diet consistently high in energy-dense, highly processed foods can make it easier to consume more energy than your body needs, and excess body fat – particularly visceral fat around the organs – is associated with insulin resistance. This is why focusing on your overall dietary pattern is much more useful than labelling one food as "bad". How can you support more stable blood sugar? You don't need to completely remove carbohydrates or live on salads. Instead, think about how you combine foods. Start with protein Try to include a source of protein at each main meal. For example: Eggs Greek yoghurt Fish Chicken Lean meat Tofu or tempeh Beans and lentils Cottage cheese Protein can help you feel fuller and is important for maintaining muscle. Add fibre Fibre slows digestion and can help meals feel more filling. Good sources include: Vegetables Fruit Beans and lentils Oats Wholegrains Nuts and seeds Increasing fibre gradually is usually best, particularly if you're not currently eating much fibre. Don't be afraid of carbohydrates Carbohydrates are not inherently unhealthy. Choose mostly minimally processed, fibre-rich sources such as oats, potatoes, sweet potatoes, beans, lentils, wholegrains, fruit and vegetables. Combining carbohydrates with protein, fibre and healthy fats can make a meal more satisfying and can help moderate the rise in blood glucose compared with eating carbohydrate on its own. Don't skip meals if it makes you ravenous later If you regularly reach the afternoon feeling shaky, exhausted and desperate for something sweet, consider whether you're simply not eating enough earlier in the day. A balanced lunch containing protein, fibre-rich carbohydrate, vegetables and healthy fats may help you avoid the "3pm crash". Move after meals Physical activity helps your muscles take up glucose. You don't necessarily need an intense workout. A short walk after a meal can be a simple way to incorporate more movement into your day. Prioritise resistance training Resistance exercise helps maintain and build muscle, which is particularly valuable during midlife. It can also support insulin sensitivity and overall metabolic health. If you're new to resistance training, start gradually and seek appropriate professional guidance if needed. Don't underestimate sleep If you're constantly exhausted, it's much harder to make balanced food choices and manage cravings. Prioritising sleep and addressing the causes of poor sleep can therefore be an important part of supporting healthy appetite and blood sugar regulation. What should you eat when you have a sugar craving? First, don't panic. Having a craving for chocolate or something sweet doesn't mean you've done anything wrong. Instead, ask yourself: Am I actually hungry? If you are, have something that combines protein, fibre and carbohydrate. For example: Greek yoghurt with berries and nuts Apple with peanut butter Oatcakes with cottage cheese A piece of fruit with a handful of nuts Greek yoghurt with a small amount of dark chocolate And if you simply fancy some chocolate, you can have some chocolate. Healthy eating doesn't require perfection. The goal is to develop a way of eating that supports your health while still allowing enjoyment and flexibility. What if I crave sugar constantly? Persistent cravings can be frustrating, particularly if you feel that you're constantly thinking about food. Rather than trying to suppress the cravings through willpower alone, look at the bigger picture. Ask yourself: Am I eating enough? Am I getting enough protein? Am I eating enough fibre? Am I skipping meals? How well am I sleeping? How much stress am I under? Am I exercising regularly? Am I relying heavily on highly processed foods? Have my cravings changed alongside other perimenopause symptoms? These questions can often provide much more useful information than simply asking, " How can I stop eating sugar?" When should you speak to your GP? If you're experiencing persistent symptoms such as excessive thirst, frequent urination, unexplained weight loss, significant fatigue or other concerning changes, speak to your GP. If you're concerned about blood sugar or insulin resistance, your GP can assess your symptoms and determine whether blood tests or further investigation are appropriate. Nutrition can support metabolic health, but it shouldn't replace medical assessment where this is needed. The bottom line Sugar cravings during perimenopause are not necessarily a sign that you've lost your willpower. Hormonal changes can occur alongside changes in sleep, stress, muscle mass, appetite and blood sugar regulation – all of which can influence how hungry you feel and what foods you crave. Rather than completely eliminating carbohydrates or following a highly restrictive diet, focus on the basics: Eat enough protein. Choose plenty of fibre-rich foods. Combine carbohydrates with protein and healthy fats. Move your body regularly. Build and maintain muscle. Prioritise sleep. Look after your stress levels. And most importantly, look at the whole picture rather than blaming yourself for having cravings. Want help understanding your cravings? If you're experiencing increased sugar cravings, changes in appetite, weight gain or energy dips during perimenopause, personalised nutrition can help you look at the underlying factors and develop a practical approach that's right for you. https://www.oxfordclinicfornutrition.co.uk/contact Published 4th September 2026 About the author Megan Oliver – Nutritionist Megan is a UK-based nutritionist specialising in female health, with a particular interest in supporting women through perimenopause, menopause and midlife. She holds a BSc (Hons) in Nutritional Science and a Diploma in Personalised Nutrition, and is a member of the British Association for Nutrition and Lifestyle Medicine (BANT) and the Complementary & Natural Healthcare Council (CNHC). Her approach focuses on understanding the individual rather than following a one-size-fits-all diet, with nutrition and lifestyle strategies tailored to each woman's needs, goals and circumstances. Find out more about Megan’s approach here This article is for educational purposes and is not intended to replace individual medical advice or diagnosis. If you have persistent, new or concerning symptoms, please speak with your GP or another appropriately qualified healthcare professional.
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